A Proverb a day gets you on your way!
Here is the Daily Dose for Tuesday, January 19, 2016
Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs. Proverbs 19:11
Your Best Self
It is not easy to overlook an offense. We all want to be the bigger person. We all want to take the high road. We even want to say that we will certainly turn the other cheek if we are wronged. The problem is, we typically say things like this when we have not been hurt, scathed or wronged. We say these things while we are comfortable, level headed and not all up in our feeling. Yes the calm, rational, unbothered us will certainly true the other cheek and be the bigger person, but that is not who we are when we are hurt.
When we have been slighted, scathed, or injured or otherwise wronged, we are not our best selves. When we are hurt, we are typically our worse selves. Our worst selves want revenge. Our worse selves, want to blame someone. Our worse selves are willing to fight, argue, fly off the handle and occasionally cuss a little. It is our worse selves that come out when pain hits, and that is typically when we can least afford our worse selves. It is when we are in pain, wronged and unhappy that we have to work to be our best selves. It is when the heat is on (shout our to Glen Frey, RIP) that we have to keep our composure, hold our peace and control our tempers.
Nobody has ever gain respect by going off. People don’t respect the expected, they respect the unexpected. The unexpected is when you keep your cool under fire. The unexpected is when you overlook a wrong as opposed to taking offense and revenge. Being the bigger person is never easy. It requires that you think before you act, realize the long term issues, and remember that there is something after this. So the next time you are insulted, hurt or injured stop before you react. Get yourself together and be the person you say you are when you are not harmed while you are harmed. Be the person that turns the other cheek, lets it go, and overlooks the harm. If you do that, you will not only gain the respect of others, but you won’t have to worry about respecting yourself.
Be Blessed,
Rev
Daryl Williams 
Most times it is very hard when you find out the one you used to up look has ran your name through the mud behind your back. But I learned that the only person they hurt is themselves because they loose all respect from those who thought they were better than that. Now that person is the outcast. Amen!