The Daily Dose with Dr. Daryl L. Williams

A Word every day to get you on your way!

Here is the Daily Dose for Thursday, September 10, 2020.

A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls. Proverbs 25:28

Authorized Entry

The last time I was in New York City, I saw something very interesting. There is always a lot of construction going on in New York, so you get used to seeing certain things. You get accustomed to seeing construction crews. You get accustomed to seeing tall cranes. You get accustomed to seeing material, supplies, and construction workers come and go. You get used to seeing all of these things through little windows. You see, in New York, when a construction project is underway, they build walls around the property with these bit of windows for you to look through. The walls are there for safety and security, but the windows are there to let you take a peek at the progress of the work.

What was different this time was when I peeked in the window, I saw kids running around in the construction site. It seems that unbeknownst to the builders, there was a section of the wall that was not attached properly. So if you knew where that section was, you could walk right into the construction site without any problems. These kids had found it and were having a jolly good time. Luckily, someone had called the management company, and they send someone down who cleared the are and secured the property. IF that had not happened, Lord only knows what could have gone wrong there.

Friends, sometimes our lives are like that construction site. We have not created the proper walls to ensure that people don’t just run around uninvited, causing mischief. When we don’t have the appropriate walls up, people can take what is valuable to us, play in places in our lives that should be sacred, and leave us having to pick up the pieces. If you are going to have good walls in your life, the first thing you will need is self-control. Self-control allows us to be vigilant about who we let in and what we let out of our lives. Self-control makes sure that what is let in is for our good, and that we only let out what is necessary. So if you are looking at your life and there are a bunch of people playing with you, put them out and build yourself a good wall. That way, you will have secured your property for only authorized entry.

Be Blessed,

Rev

The Daily Dose with Dr. Daryl L. Williams

A Word every day to get you on your way!

Here is the Daily Dose for Wednesday, September 9, 2020.

Instead, he must be hospitable, a lover of good, self-controlled, upright, holy, and disciplined. Titus 1:8

Who’s The Boss

I love watching little kids play. They have such joy and fun that we often lose as we become adults. But just like adults, it is not always fun and games for little kids. I was watching my niece and some of her friends playing at a theme restaurant one day when a controversy broke out. It seems there was some debate about who should do what in the imaginary game. My niece had given an instruction, she’s quite the leader when one of her friends sharply objected. She looked her in the eyes and boldly stated, YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS OF ME. I fell out laughing.

This little girl had discovered very early in life one of the keys to successful living, nobody is the boss of you. Often, we are looking for others to do the things that we can only do for ourselves. Every decision we make in life, we made. We can blame others, but if we follow their advice, we did that. We can talk about how things are unfair, but we have the choice of how we interact and respond to the unfair things in life. In the end, we get to make a choice, and we get to live with the consequences.

Friends, you are the boss of you. You get to choose what you will and won’t do. You get to choose what you will and won’t accept. You get to choose what you react to, how you respond to it, and how long you carry it around with you. So today, I want you to know you have officially been promoted to the status of the boss. So now that you are the boss, it is up to you to lead you, discipline you, and be responsible for what you do. So now that you are the boss, what are you going to do?

Be Blessed,

Rev

The Daily Dose with Dr. Daryl L. Williams

A Word every day to get you on your way!

Here is the Daily Dose for Tuesday, September 8, 2020.

Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. 1 Corinthians 9:25

 

The Off-Season

Instagram has changed how I watch sports. Like everyone else, I have my favorite teams, but I can tell really early if my teams are going to compete for the championship, or if I am just watching for fun. It is not the first game of the season that lets me know how my team is going to do; it is actually the offseason from the season before. I follow the players and coaches of the teams that I like on social media, and I watch to see what they are doing during the offseason to have an idea of how they are going to do the next season.

Watching my teams during the offseason tells me what to look forward to in the next season. When I am watching the players and coaches on vacation, I can see if they are preparing for what’s to come.  When I see them working out on vacation, showing healthy meals, and practicing in their free time, I know it is going to be a good season. When I see them posting unhealthy food, not working out, and getting flabby, I know it is going to be a long season ahead for them and for me as a fan.

Friends, our success is based on what we do in the offseason. We may not be athletes, but the same principles apply to us, the offseason matters. To have the blessings of God, we have to be preparing ourselves even when there is no game to play. We need to be praying when there is no crisis so that in a crisis, we are already prepared. We have to read the Bible when we are not in worship so that the scriptures are in our hearts when challenges arise. When we discipline ourselves to do the work in the offseason, we are ready to win when the season starts.

Be Blessed,

Rev

The Daily Dose with Dr. Daryl L. Williams

A Word every day to get you on your way!

Here is the Daily Dose for Monday, September 7, 2020.

Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city. Proverbs 16:32

Save The Drama

One of my guilty pleasures is reality television. Every time I need a good pick me up, I flip a show on. It doesn’t really matter which one because they are all the same. In every episode, someone does something, someone else finds out, and at some point, they rush over to have a big confrontation. There are all types of yelling, screaming, and if it’s a good episode, a table gets flipped over. Then someone breaks it up, and they have to have a sit down to decide who was right, who was wrong, and how they will get over it and move on until the next episode.

The funny thing is they could cut out one of the scenes, and it would be much better. They can keep the who did this and who did that. They can keep the sit down at the end to sort things out. What they don’t need is the heated confrontation. People will do things that offend each other, and those things have to be sorted out to save relationships and move on, but you don’t have to have the fight. The fight only happens because someone gets jacked up and rushes in, typically without all of the facts, and the other person rushes to defend themselves, and all hell breaks loose. It funny, it provides drama, but in real life, it is entirely unnecessary.

Friends, much of the drama in our lives is because we rush into things. When we don’t stop, settle down, and think, we wind up in entirely avoidable situations. Think about the last five arguments you were in. I am willing to bet if you had taken a moment to stop, control your emotions, and then react, there would not have been an argument at all. So the next time you see drama coming your way, stop, think, get control, and skip the fight. That way, you can have more fun and no more drama.

Be Blessed,

Rev

The Daily Dose with Dr. Daryl L. Williams

A Word every day to get you on your way!

Here is the Daily Dose for Friday, September 4, 2020.

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

Just Be Nice

Every argument starts the same way. Someone says something, and the other person responds in a way that makes the first person angry. Then, the person who has been angered escalates by saying something that angers the other person even more. In response, that person ups the ante again, saying something that will ratchet up the anger and emotion until they are both yelling, the argument is full-blown, and feelings are hurt.

Friends, if you want to stop an argument before it starts, just be kind. It is challenging to argue with someone who is being nice to you. Sure there are people who can, but most people respond to gentle answers with gentle responses. When we make an effort not to go tit for tat with people, but instead meet anger with kindness, aggression with gentleness, and hate with love, it changes the trajectory of every interaction.

Every time we interact with someone, we have the chance to direct that encounter. We can direct that encounter towards hostility, or we can lead it towards peace. So make an effort to be nice, it really will save a lot of time and hassle in the long run.

Be Blessed,

Rev

The Daily Dose with Dr. Daryl L. Williams

A Word every day to get you on your way!

Here is the Daily Dose for Thursday, September 3, 2020.

What do you prefer? Shall I come to you with a rod of discipline, or shall I come in love and with a gentle spirit? 1 Corinthians 4:21

You Pick

Suppose you were starting a new job and they gave you a choice of managers. The first manager has a reputation for getting great results, but she rides her team hard. From their side of the building, you hear constant yelling, there are threats, and everyone lives in fear, but they are exceptionally productive. On the other hand, you could choose a different manager. This manager has a reputation for being very nice to her employees. They have team building events, an open working environment, and everyone seems to be happy and excited to come to work. Which manager would you choose?

Most of us would choose the second manager. We would choose the second manager because the environment seems to be better. It seems as if that manager cares not just about the job but about her people as well. The second manager is gentle with people, but they seem to be working just as hard, if not harder, than the first manager’s people.

Friends, this is similar to our relationship with God. In the Old Testament, people worked hard to live up to the law of Moses. The law was a taskmaster that drove people to do well but always hovered over them, reminding them that there was more to do. In the New Testament, Jesus comes to replace the law with love and faith. Jesus reminds us that faith is enough, and God truly does love us. At the end of the day, the Lord can deal with us with a rod of discipline or with gentleness and love. We get to pick.

Be Blessed,

Rev

The Daily Dose with Dr. Daryl L. Williams

A Word every day to get you on your way!

Here is the Daily Dose for Wednesday, September 2, 2020.

Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient to do whatever is good, to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and always to be gentle towards everyone. Titus 3:1-2

Treat Them Right

There is nothing that bothers me more than people who are rude to servers in restaurants. I have seen it over and over again in restaurants. A server is just doing their job, and the patron of the restaurant is dismissive, rude, or, worse cruel. As the server walks away, the patron typically looks smugly as if they have put the server in their place. It always makes me look at the patron differently. I don’t think they have put the server in place. Instead, I think they’ve shown how small they are.

We have choices in how we treat people in this world. Most of us can pull it together for people that can do something for us, but we show who we really are when dealing with people who we perceive to be beneath us. Like in the restaurant, I am sure the patrons who treat servers poorly don’t speak or act that way with their bosses. For their boss, they are kind, gentle, and respectful, even when the boss is wrong. Yet, the server is the person they don’t feel they have to keep it together for. Who that person really is, is not who they are with their boss, it is who they are with that server.

Friends, when we become followers of Jesus, we are not supposed to pull it together for people we respect and be the real us with people we don’t. Instead, we are called to work towards being our pulled together self at all times. We are called to make the best version of ourselves, the one we reserve for those above us, the only version of ourselves. We are called to be peaceable, considerate, and gentle to all people. So every day, in all circumstances, bring your best God-given self, so that the boss and the server both feel respected, honored, and worthy. When we do that, we are truly living the life of disciples.

Be Blessed,

Rev

The Daily Dose with Dr. Daryl L. Williams

A Word every day to get you on your way!

Here is the Daily Dose for Tuesday, September 1, 2020.

But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander. 1 Peter 3:15-16

It’s How You Say It

Some people just have a way with words. These are the people that you get to break the bad news to people, negotiate with used car salesmen, and talk to the police when you have been pulled over. They seem to just intuitively know which words to use to get exactly what they want. The funny thing is, for many of us, we can use the same words in the same circumstances and not have the same results. It really all comes down to not what you say but how you say it.

Many times in life, we can know what to say, but say it the wrong way. Studies have shown that when we communicate with people, most of what we communicate is not in our words. Sixty percent of human communication is body language. This means that only forty percent of what we communicate comes through what we say, and thirty percent of that is actually tone, not the words. That is why how you say things is as important as what you say.

Friends, as believers, we are instructed to always have an answer about our faith, but to share it with gentleness and respect so that we can keep a clear conscience. When we share with gentleness and respect, we don’t run people over, argue them down, or try to belittle them. We simply know what we believe and share it in a way that allows others possibly to come to the same belief. We can’t be so concerned with winning the argument that we lose the ability to be respected in the conversation. So every day, have an answer ready, but more importantly, be prepared to share it in a gentle way.

Be Blessed,

Rev

The Daily Dose with Dr. Daryl L. Williams

A Word every day to get you on your way!

Here is the Daily Dose for Monday, August 31, 2020.

Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Philippians 4:5

Circumstantial Evidence

I consider myself a bit of an amateur detective. It is not because I have any police training or have taken any classes. I don’t need any of that. I have personally seen every episode of the television show Law and Order at least three times. I can tell you the names of all the detectives are and their partners. I can tell you the names of all of the prosecutors. I can state your Miranda rights without any notes. But most of all, I know that you do not need hard evidence or a confession to secure a conviction.

As I learned on episode after episode, all you need is circumstantial evidence. Circumstantial evidence is when something becomes evident based on the things that, when put together, paint a picture. It is like finding a fingerprint at a crime scene, even though there is no direct evidence that the person has been there. That circumstantial evidence can be enough to gain a conviction even when there is no direct evidence.

Friends, we don’t want to live lives of circumstantial evidence. We want direct proof. Gentleness is having a spirit that is mature and calm in all circumstances. This means that as people of faith, we are supposed to be mature and calm in all circumstances so people can see it. When they see our gentleness, they will know that the Lord is near and that they can be calm as well. So while we can be convicted on circumstantial evidence, make sure that your gentleness is known to all.

Be Blessed,

Rev

The Daily Dose with Dr. Daryl L. Williams

A Word every day to get you on your way!

Here is the Daily Dose for Friday, August 28, 2020.

A faithful person will be richly blessed, but one eager to get rich will not go unpunished. Proverbs 28:20

A Just Reward 

There is a story about a rich man who built two houses. He had two plots of land on opposite sides of town. So he hires a contractor to build him two identical houses—one on each parcel of land. The contractor built the first house entirely to specifications. He used the best materials, the best finishes, and hired the best sub-contractors. When the first house was finished, he started working on the second house. Only this time, he cut corners. He used lesser materials, ok finishes, and hired cut-rate sub-contractors. The house was finished and looked the same but wasn’t the same. When he gave the owner the keys to the second house, the owner gave them back. The second house was always intended to be a reward to the contractor for all the hard work he had done building the first house.

Friends, being faithful, has its blessings. When we are faithful and do our best in all circumstances, there are rewards. We have the reward of knowing we did what we said we would. We have the reward of developing a reputation for doing great work. We also have the reward of God knowing that we did the best we could with what we had. So make sure that you are faithful in all that you do. You never know what your reward might be.

Be Blessed,

Rev